Social Skills and Development play an important role in shaping any recruiters’ professional success. In the recruitment arena, a persons’ social make-up directly impacts his/her ability to understand clients and candidates as a Recruiter.
People who have social issues are prone to problems like insecurity, lack of confidence, low self-worth and are doubtful about their abilities both social and professional. Such social inadequacy will cause a recruiter to miss out on a lot of professional opportunities. In the recruitment field, it is essential that the recruiter is able to connect not just with the employer but also with the person that they are hiring. Clearly, a social recruiter’s behaviour can really impact his/her standing in the public domain and his/her success. Some of the reasons for socially awkward behaviour are given below:
- Family and Social Structure: As a result of the changes in the past century, a lot of millennials today have lost out on the proper development of social skills. Further, they may also have picked up poor communication habits through popular media messages that alter their view of society and social expectations. Family-related social awkwardness can play out in children of parents who are highly overprotective. People who have had an overly sheltered upbringing may have never gotten a chance to practice their social skills.
- Inborn Personality Traits: Some people just lean towards an awkward social disposition because of their core personality traits. Some of these inborn personality traits include a naturally lower drive to socialize. This lack of social skills may predispose naturally introverted people to lagging behind others when it comes to social development and professional life.
- Otherwise Difficult Childhood: A childhood disrupted by changing schools often, personal loss, sickness are other factors for lack of appropriate development. When one moves around too much as a child, he/she is forced to make superficial connections instead of investing the effort to make deep lasting connections. Such disruptions during developmental stages in life can reduce social confidence and affect the way in which a person interacts with peers and authority figures for their rest of their lives.
- Scapegoating and Bullying by Others: Scapegoating is to single someone out for ridicule and ostracisation. Bullying takes it a step further by causing mental, physical, emotional or social intimidation, often in order to force the victim to do something. A child suffering as a victim of bullying loses their self-esteem and can become really confused. These experiences of bullying destroy a person‘s confidence. A victimized person may feel wary and bitter of future social interactions – directly impacting their ability to succeed in the professional world.
- Abuse: This is the most sinister cause for social inability to thrive. Abuse can be physical, emotional, sexual, even caused by negligence or hostility. It is highly damaging to child development. It can lead to severe mental health issues that have their own set of social problems attached. Such people will lose the motivation to do things socially. They may never regain the ability to form functional social relationships.
- Impact of Social behaviour in Social Recruitment World: One or more of the above factors may play into social interactions in the recruitment arena. Any of the above experiences may shape the social and professional composition of a recruiter, an employer and even a candidate. The irony of social media is that although we are technologically advanced and are able to reach out to each other over geographical, economic and socio-cultural differences; people have also lost some basic social etiquette and behaviours that are crucial to maintaining a healthy professional network that is required to succeed in the recruitment business.
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